his dealings with others. Rather than allowing matters to fester and abscess, he must settle daily all emotional issues between himself and others.23 He may neither hold nor nurse grudges against others. Letting the sun go down on anger is the most frequent cause of sexual disharmony in marriage. It is hard to bring all of the baggage of resentment into the bed at night and expect to have freedom of joyous sexual expression under those circumstances. Counselors will do well to investigate thoroughly